Dear Future Love on Valentines Day... I have lived many lives before you came along, loved hard and left because neither could accept me for who I was. I need you to know that up front that I will not be morphing myself to fit into the boxed idea you have of me in your mind. I am quite …
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Why create a Divorcée Cafe?
Why? WHY? WHY?! Divorce doesn't go away once we sign papers ending a marriage. It is imprinting in our DNA, our children's DNA, and forever in our lives after. If we want to get scientific, our divorce is imprinting epigenetic changes for our grandchildren. There is no aspect of our life from now …
Loosen up, Buttercup!
Holidays have a habit to heighten emotions at an already crazy time in a single parent's life. No matter how you slice it or dice it, there will be stress somewhere. As we watch our Littles, divorce is a friggin' blinking beacon like lights on the Christmas tree. Guilt begins to well up inside us …
The Need to Believe
When I decided to file for divorce, Mina was 4. She had imaginary friends in her books she would talk to and dance with who gave her comfort during an uncertain time. Divorce is so hard on kids because it brings up the conversation about love and loss. "Mama, if you and my dad stopped loving each …
Worthwhile Wellness
It was the first holiday season that defied any kind of familiarity. Mediation for our divorce had yet to be scheduled, and I had moved from the home and relationship I’d helped create over the last 24 years. I felt somewhat like the solitary stocking that had been hung with care over the …